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Oct 11, 2018

It is Not About You

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Edited: Oct 27, 2018

So often we all struggle when someone calls us a name, says something hurtful or uses the wrong tone. However, do we have to allow that to hurt us? In the Healthy Tip “Sticks and Stones” I share some strategies on how not to allow yourself to be hurt from other’s words. Please share your thoughts or times when you found it difficult not to feel hurt.


I recently used the strategy of “It is not about me.” My husband and I were working on a project together, he was short with me. Instead of allowing it to hurt me, I realized it wasn’t about me, it was because he was frustrated with the project. So instead of reacting, after a while and he wasn’t so frustrated, he realized he was short with me and apologized. It helped to not react first and kept us from having hurt feelings or an argument.

Oct 25, 2018

I really like this post. Just the other day I was feeling hurt because my friend was mean to me. I realized later it wasn't about me, but that she was upset about something else. Later, we talked about it, and just as much as I had to realize it wasn't about me the way she was acting, she also noticed she needs to try not to be so abrupt when she is upset. I am learning not to take things in life so seriously. Thanks again for all your insight. I love your posts and topics.

My background: I have been a mentor for 20 years to people struggling with work issues, marital concerns, parenting concerns, depression, and general life concerns. I am a great listener and am here for you. You can either post on this site or contact me privately at focusonfreedoms@gmail.com.